Matang ni, Macam Mana?

Assalamualaikum,

i'm back right after i published the previous post. talking about maturity. i guess this is the second time. i don't know why, but i really want to share something that i thought about "maturity" recently.

as i am right now away from home, away from families & friends, away from my country. i think i've learned so much things. i understand so much things. no, maybe not so much but, much more things. and i'd like to record it somewhere or portrait it or write it somewhere so that it will not be forgotten or maybe as a reminder when i forget. it's a human nature to forget.

in my opinion, mature is when someone can make their own decision in something. and he/she can commit to the decision he/she has made. as for example, making a big decision, still. it needs an advice from someone that we can count on, like close friends. that is wise. of course we can't decide on our own, we need to hear what people say, but the decision is in our hand. and then, after the decision is made, we will have to be committed to it. like if we decided to join an organisation. there will be a big responsibility and amanah for a student to get involve in any organisation. (there is difference between responsibility and amanah, that we need to hold both, but i'm not gonna go there). because as a student we need to know how to balance and manage the responsible and amanah. we need to organise the priority. like making a schedule. it doesn't mater if it's a mind-schedule. it's still a schedule, i guess. hehe. but, i think it will be more effective if we write it. (but i don't think that's me =P) as for muslims wise decision can be made by "istikharah", insyaAllah..

so that's my opinion by this time. mature is when someone can make a wise decision and commits to it. with that, i think i can classify my self as a not-yet-matured. haha. i know we're all human, with different brains and so many different thoughts. there are other definitions of "mature". you might define it as a different thing from a different side of view. so, feel free to share it with me, if you got sometime.
Thanks !

till then, ma'assalamah !

Bila Kopiah bertemu Hijab

Assalamualaikum,

like a few months ago, i guess. i don't quite remember, but i attended this program entitled "Bila Baju Melayu bertemu Baju Kurung" so i decided to talk about this and by changing the title like i did up there..but here i am, a few months later, updating my blog..

jadi, saya pun dah tak ingat sangat yang diketengahkan semasa ceramah tu, dan apa yang saya rasa kebenarannya, atau yang terkena pada diri saya..apa yang saya ingat, kita ni waktu remaja perasaan yang rasa suka, minat, terpikat, berkenan la kononnya, tu sebenarnya hanyalah dicucuk-cucuk oleh syaitan atau nafsu je. kalau nak tahu dialah "orangnya", kita akan rasa sesuatu yang lain daripada yang lain. mungkin dengan kita melihat dia, hati kita merasa suka yang tenang. dan ada terasa keazaman ingin berubah kepada orang yang lebih baik. lebih kurang, macam tu lah kot. maaf kalau tersilap.

baru-baru ni pun ade program antara kami batch tahun 1 perubatan mengenai "Cinta VS Cita-Cita". ahli-ahli panel dia sangat best dan sporting ! saya ingat ape yang abang senior tu cakap berkenaan cinta. atau lebih kepada perkahwinan mungkin?

Selepas kahwin, kita akan dapat "Sakinah" yakni ketenangan. yang mana diterangkan lagi bahawa sakinah ni sebenarnya daripada perkataan "sikkiin" iaitu pisau..jadi, pisau ni kalau potong, kan terputus terus apa yang dipotong tu. ketenangan yang digambarkan tu ibarat pisau yang memotong tu lah. setelah kita berkahwin, akan ada satu rasa ketenangan yang memotong terus kita daripada perasaan-perasaan yang sebelum ini yang membelenggu kita. mungkin juga ada kaitannya dengan perasaan setiap penganti yang berdebar bagai nak luruh jantung menunggu hari perkahwinan. tapi, manalah saya tahu. melainkan saya ada pengalaman tu. gatai !

jadi, yang kedua pula, kita akan dapat "Mawaddah". i did a research, because i don't really remember about this one.  This is deeper in meaning than the word mahabbat which translates as ‘love’. Mawaddah is mutual love. It is the connection of two hearts, as mentioned in the Tafseer of Qurtubi. Mawaddah is different to muhabbah in the sense that the former is a love that connects two hearts.
you can go and check it for the full one here --> http://www.askpray.com/article_details.aspx?article_id=3
jadi, dari maksud yang diberikan tu, penerangannya lebih kurang macam ni la, "Mawaddah" ni bermaksud cinta yang diwujudkan antara lelaki dan perempuan selepas berkahwin. maksudnya antara suami dan isteri. ini keistimewaan yang Allah berikan kepada setiap pasangan yang berkahwin. kalau tak silap, abang tu cakap ini dalam masa lebih kurang 10 tahun.

seterusnya, akan dilontarkan pula dalam hati "Rahmah". untuk ini, apa yang saya ingat, selepas lebih sudah 40-50 tahun pernikahan, cinta tu sudah berkurang tapi timbul rasa kasih dan sayang yang mengekalkan perkahwinan itu sehingga ke Syurga, insyaAllah..maksudnya dalam tanggungjawab menjaga rumahtangga, anak-anak. lebih kurang macam hati menjadi satu la kot.haha. "Rahmah" ni, kalau ikutkan dictionary, it means "mercy" jadi mungkin boleh cuba faham sendiri? hehe. atau boleh google?

itu sajelah kot. jadi, sebelum saya mengakhiri cuma nak menegaskan lah. jangan ade spekulasi yang mengatakan saya ni dah tak sabar nak "ada pengalaman". cuma ini yang disampaikan kepada saya dan rakan-rakan seperjuangan yang turut terlibat. saya terfikir jugak, kenapa kami didedahkan dengan benda-benda ni. mungkin sebab pelajar-pelajar mesir ni, memang tak boleh dipisahkan daripada isu ni kot. hehe
ini bukan benda yang asing lagi. tapi agak janggal lah bagi saya sebenarnya. cuma diri ini terasa hendak menaip dan berkongsi sesuatu. ^-^

till then, ma'assalamah !